Should I quit?

I seldom cited article from www.cw.com.tw, but this one really touched my heart. I put this article in here is for myself and this article is written with Chinese character. I also use google translation to translate it. It is a long article and I don't have time to modify the translation. Hope you can understand it.

我該離職嗎？ (Should I quit?)

作者：林曉茗 　出處：Cheers 2010/11
你是否經常處於這種猶豫不決的情境：好想辭職，卻又害怕改變、怕找不到新工作？但有時候，如果你是為了正確的理由，選擇放棄一段感情或辭掉工作；你會發現你得到的，遠比你失去的多。

原文刊登於CHEERS雜誌2006年4月，67期。

其實，你並不孤獨。許多人在面臨瓶頸時，多少都會有改變的念頭。但多數人常在各種主、客觀壓力下，選擇抑制自己尋求改變的欲望。

從小到大，身旁的長輩可能一再灌輸你「堅持到底才是贏家」的觀念。而你也深怕，離開既有的軌道，就得面對茫然無知的未來。但仔細回憶一下，過去你是否也曾經徘徊在抉擇的十字路口，最後決定轉換新跑道？因為你的果斷，你可能從此脫離苦海，找到更適合的工作。

過去的經驗告訴我們，改變難免有痛，但這是成長必經的過程。當一份工作已經成為你生理上、心理上的痛苦來源時，放棄它，也許才能讓你獲得重生。

區分習慣性逃避和理性抉擇

有些人習慣逃避。面對困難、面對責任，他們通常會選擇一走了之。這種習慣性逃避的模式，也常常成為社會不認同改變的理由之一。

但經過深思熟慮的改變不是衝動、不是逃避，而是依照客觀的條件找到最適合自己的決定。如果經過一番思考後，你是為了追尋自我成長、為了拯救你的自尊和健康而辭職，而且勇於承擔一切後果，你的決定應該和一時衝動下做出的決定很不一樣。

試著和你的身體、你的心靈對話。問問自己，如果繼續留在這份工作，你會有什麼感覺？如果辭掉這份工作，你的感覺又是什麼？

美國暢銷作家珍妮佛．勞登（Jennifer Louden）在從事諮詢服務的過程中曾接觸過一位讀者。克里絲認為這位讀者的工作枯燥、沒有建設性。當她想到辭職，「背馬上挺了起來，而且臉上充滿笑意。」但一想到留下來，她就「整個人攤在椅子上，眉頭深鎖。」　勞登認為，身體是不會說謊的。你身體的反應會洩漏你的心事。試著問問你的身體：怎麼做，對你才是最好的？

與自己的心對話

在你問過自己的身體後，你應該問問你的心。美國《身體與心靈》（body+mind）雜誌提出8個自我探索的重要問題，讓徘徊在十字街頭的人們自我診斷，看看自己到底有沒有辭職的充分理由：

1.回憶一下，當你一開始從事這份工作時，你曾經感到很快樂嗎？如果你從來不曾有過這樣的感覺，將來也很難會有。但如果你曾經感到快樂，也許你可以試著找回當初的動力。

2.你曾經對自己的工作有不安全感嗎？如果答案是肯定的，那你是否因為承擔某種風險而獲得補償？這些補償足以彌補一切嗎？

3.當你在思考要不要改變的問題時，你心裡是否已經有了決定？勞登的一位心理諮詢客戶柔伊，原本一直在猶豫要不要放棄律師工作。直到有一天，她發現自己無意間竟然推掉3件重要的案件，而且已經兩次開庭遲到，她才了解，自己在心裡面可能早就已經做出選擇了。

4.你是否總是在等待什麼事情發生呢？你以前是不是曾經在沙地裡畫出一條線，然後對自己說，這是你可以忍受的最後極限，但最後卻發現自己一再往後退，一再重畫你的界線？

5.你是不是時常感覺自尊受到傷害、覺得自己不受重視？想想看是哪些人或哪些情況讓你有這種感覺？情況有可能改變嗎？還是非得離開這個工作才行？

6.你現在是否還持續在成長、仍可學到對你將來有幫助的東西？如果你覺得你依然繼續朝著自己想要的未來邁進，那是一個非常正面的現象。如果不是，也許，現在就是你辭掉工作的時候了。

7.你是否懷有不切實際的夢想，而對現實不滿？你可能覺得當個SOHO族，就可以彈性工作，擁有更多自由的時間。然而事實上，情況並非你所想的那樣。因此，想想你要離開這份工作的原因是什麼？真的是因為這份工作不好，還是來自於不切實際的夢想？

8.如果你知道，一旦辭職，就只許成功、不許失敗，你會怎麼做？你第一個想到的是什麼？很快地寫下你想到的所有事。害怕失敗和不確定感常常會阻礙許多可能性出現。

你受夠了嗎？

如果你很確定自己應該辭職，但是主、客觀條件又讓你無法斷然採取行動，該怎麼辦？ 　請記住，柏林圍牆倒塌以前，也沒人相信會發生這樣的事。改變總是需要時間的，而且你也可能必須適度做一些妥協，或者尋求其他人（尤其是專家）的意見。但無論如何，改變永遠都是可能的。

真正決定你是否要繼續留下、還是大步往前邁進的關鍵點還是在於，你是不是願意誠實地問自己：「我是不是已經受夠了？」、「我改變的意願是不是強烈到可以為此承擔一切風險？」最重要的是，如果現在不行動，還要等到什麼時候？
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Translation by google

I leave it?

Of: Lin Xiao Ming Source: Cheers 2010/11
Do you often hesitate in such situations: really want to quit, but fear of change, fear can not find a new job? But sometimes, if you are for the right reasons, choose to give up a relationship or quit your job; you will find that you get, more than you lose.

Original published in the CHEERS magazine in April 2006, 67.

In fact, you are not alone. Many people in the face of bottlenecks, the idea of how much will have changed. But most often in a variety of subjective and objective under pressure, choose suppress his desire to seek change.

From small to large, side again elders may instill "Hold in the end is the winner" concept. And you afraid to leave the existing tracks, you have to face the dark about the future. But a closer recall, the last you ever hovering at the crossroads of choice, and finally decided to change to a new runway? Because of your determination, you may from misery, to find a more suitable job.

Past experience tells us that change is inevitable that pain, but it is a necessary process of growth. When a job has become your physical, mental, pain source, give it up, perhaps to make you be reborn.

Distinction between habitual and rational choice to avoid

Some people used to escape. The face of difficulties, the face of responsibility, they usually choose just walk away. The customary mode of escape, they often become one of the reasons do not agree to change.

However, after careful consideration of the change is not impulsive, not to escape, but according to objective conditions to find the most suitable for their own decisions. If, after some thought, you are to pursue self-growth, in order to save your self-esteem and health to resign, and the courage to bear all the consequences of your decision should spur of the moment decisions are quite different.

Try and your body, your heart dialogue. Ask yourself, if you continue to stay in the job, how would you feel? If you quit this job, you feel what is it?

American best-selling author Jennifer. Loudon (Jennifer Louden) engaged in the process of consulting services has been exposed to a reader. Keli Si that the work of boring the reader, not constructive. When she thought of resignation, "back up very soon, and his face full of smile." But the thought to stay, she would "spread the whole person in the chair, his brows." Loudon believes that the body will not lie The. Your body's response will reveal your thoughts. Try to ask your body: how do you best?

dialogue with his heart

You ask your body, you should ask your heart. United States, "Body and Soul" (body mind) 8 Journal of proposed self-exploration of important issues, so that lingering self-diagnosis in the crossroads of people and see what in the end there is no sufficient reason for his resignation:

1. Recall that when you start doing it, have you ever feel happy? If you have never had this feeling, and will hardly be. But if you ever feel happy, maybe you can try to recover the original power.

2. You ever work on their own do not feel safe? If the answer is yes, if you assume a certain risk because of compensation? These compensation sufficient to cover everything?

3. When you think the question should not change, your mind is already decided? Loudon, a psychological consulting clients soft Iraq, had been hesitant to give lawyers. Until one day, she found herself unexpectedly turned down unintentionally three important cases, and two sessions have been late, she did not know, there may already have their mind made a choice.

4. Are you always waiting for something to happen? You have not had to draw a line in the sand, and then said to myself, this is the last limit you can tolerate, but in the end they find themselves one and then further back, again and again to redraw the boundaries of you?

5. You are not self-esteem often feel hurt, feel that they are not taken seriously? Think about what people or what situations make you feel this way? Situation may change? Caixing still have to leave the job?

6. You are still continuing to grow, the future can help you learn something? If you feel that you still continue to move toward the future they want, which is a very positive phenomenon. If not, perhaps, now is the time you quit your job.

7. Do you have unrealistic dreams, and is satisfied? You may think being a SOHO, flexible working can have more free time. In reality, however, is not what you think. So think about what you want to leave this job why? Because this job is really bad, or from the unrealistic dream?

8. If you know, once resigned to only succeed, not fail, how would you do? You first thought of? Quickly write down what you think of everything. Fear of failure and uncertainty often prevent many possibilities appear.

you had enough yet?

If you are sure you should resign, but the subjective and objective conditions can not be categorically makes you take action, how to do? Remember, before the collapse of the Berlin Wall, but also one believed would happen. Change always takes time, and you may have to do some modest compromises, or find other people (especially expert) opinion. But in any case, change is always possible.

Decide whether you really want to continue to stay, or move forward key step lies, you are not willing to honestly ask yourself: "I am not have had enough?", "I will not change strongly to to bear all the risk for this? "The most important thing is that if do not act now, have to wait until when?